Resources for parenting can be found everywhere. But often, they really are designed for Moms, not Dads. Even subtle language can make Fathers feel that close parenting isn’t an area where they should tread. The Knights of Columbus have launched a website, Fathers for Good, to correct this image by assuring Catholic Dads that not only should they be active parents, but that it is vital that they do so.
The site offers many stories, articles, ideas, videos and podcasts to help Catholic Dads connect with their children. Readers are even invited to help select future monthly topics.
One article shows how fathers are essential. As the author explains, “There is no time in a child’s life that doesn’t count. Research has shown that even infants know and respond to their fathers differently than they do to their mothers. The bond you make with a baby sets the foundation for a lifetime.” A relationship with both parents is so helpful for children at every age.
I can only look back to my own experience as a parent to see how true this is, even for a newborn. My husband and I were both fortunate to take significant time off work after the birth of our child. Then we took turns parenting during the day as we both eased back into the workworld part-time on opposite schedules. Our child was, and still is, equally comfortable and happy being with either of us. I contrast this with other experiences and stories I have heard, where Dads are told to stay out of the way during those first few months. Unfortunately, this then becomes a pattern and the bond between father and child is not as strong as it can be. Fortunately, we know that the bonds can be made deeper, but the father has to take the initiative. And the Fathers for Good website helps Dads do just that.